One of the most frequently asked questions I hear is this:

“Here is what happened ______________ (insert all the sordid and painful details). Do I still have a chance or is it hopeless?”

Have you ever wondered this? I know I have. I also know this goes beyond just the situation with your ex. It applies to every part of our lives, doesn’t it? When things go awry (and how often does that happen:), what do we do?

As people we have an ingrained psychological NEED to feel and exercise our personal power.

This doesn’t mean anything weird like being more powerful than others, or bullying people. What it means is that we need to feel like we have some control over our own lives.

One of the most devastating things about a breakup is the loss of this feeling of power. The choice of our happiness feels like it has been taken from us. That is devastating to our state of well being.

Does this make sense? Have you ever felt this way?

If so, I have some good news. You can change this feeling by changing the way you look at the situation. Or, to put it another way, by changing the way you interpret it. What this will do for you is allow you feel better and be stronger, more confident and happier than you would have been otherwise.

Here’s the first step: the way you interpret a situation has everything to do with how you feel about it. Often after a breakup, we think our ex isn’t thinking about us at all, that they are moving on, and happy with life without us. This is devastating to our well-being.

Well, who says they are moving on and happy with life? You do. You are the one who is saying that. You are telling it to yourself. Is it possible you could tell yourself something different? If you are telling yourself one thing that makes you feel like crap, would you be willing to tell yourself something different that would make you feel better?

If you’re not willing to try it, then you are obviously devoted to being miserable. If you aren’t willing to TRY something that can make you feel better, than you are choosing (for whatever reason) to be sad. And being sad isn’t as fun as being happy. It’s easier, but not as much fun.

Okay, so what can you think instead? Think this: “My ex is sad and missing me because we had some great times and shared some deep emotion. They may appear to be doing better, but it’s just an act. They are a better actor than I am, but in no less pain. “What this does for you is profound. It allows you to feel wanted. To feel a sense of power again. Imagine if you were to believe the statement above were true. Wouldn’t you feel stronger, more confident and more sure of how to move forward? Wouldn’t you feel like you had more options than just waiting for them to call you, text you or ask you out? Wouldn’t it feel like the deepest needs we have (to feel wanted, to have some sense of control over our own lives) would be more satisfied?

Yes.

Now listen, if you’re still reading this, it’s obvious that you are a person that takes action to create your happiness. Here’s what to do next:

Go HERE and check out what this guy is offering. Listen to his video and see if that makes any sense to you. If so, check out his course. I’ve reviewed it myself and think it’s awesome.

Confidence is contagious, isn’t it? You’ve been around people who are confident, right? Not cocky, but confident. Confident in you and your strengths. How does that make you feel?

Confident. Now go get your ex back. With this new found confidence!

Good luck!

Do you have that short-of-breath, sick-to-your-stomach feeling right now, playing out every possible event that led to losing control of your relationship and ultimately. It’s called paralysis by analysis.

Try this: think of rhetoric, in theoretical terms, as the relationship between your thoughts and feelings and how they are represented in your words, actions and behaviors. What are you feeling right now? Chances are, not very good, and it’s sabotaging your chances of getting back with your ex.

Here’s how you can change that TODAY. This guy is brilliant.

 

Want to know what never works to get over a broken heart and reestablish a relationship built on love, trust, and even passion with your ex?

Check out this text my friend Michael shared recently and see if you can figure out what this guy is doing wrong…

(the b is for boy, the g is for girl)

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B: I can’t believe you’re dating around already. I thought you were busy with work, school, and your ex…not dating multiple people!! Call me tonight. I want to hear details. I’m over us as well. I cam talk without getting jealous. I’m surprised by how quickly you jumped back into the field though.

G: First of all, I’m not dating multiple people.

G: Secondly, my dating life is none of your business. Yeah I’ve been f*****g slammed with work.

B: Second, how longs it been going on?

G: Whatever you’re annoying. I am still at work.

G: I’m NOT dating anyone.

G: I’m just not interested in dating you.

B: I thought we were friends. Dont be f*****g rude to me.

G: Our personalities clash in my opinion. Better as friends.

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Can you spot what’s wrong here? Do you think this guy has any shot acting like that? Here is a tip, it has nothing to do with his wording or timing. The problem runs far deeper, stemming from a misguided clarity in approach.

Look, if you’ve tried any of that stuff (or are trying that now), it’s totally understandable. Your emotions are in the way, and you can’t think straight. It’s not your fault.

There is good news. Instead making those mistakes, or worse: falling into a pattern and approach that manifests those mistakes, you can develop in yourself something that really WORKS to respark the attraction and get your ex back. No games; no gimmicks.

If you’re dedicated to learning and growing, the worst that could happen is that you learn a little about yourself, about love and trust, and become a better person.

- Get Over a Broken Heart

 

Too many of us watch love slip through our fingertips. Why? Because we don’t have the courage and willingness to fight for our love.

YOU are NOT one of those people. You prove by taking action that you will make your love life what you want it to be. And we are honored to help.

So here’s what to do next…

Love isn’t something that happens to you (hopefully not anyway). It’s something you happen to. The people who have the greatest success are those who DO these exercises.

These tools available to you will help you to do that today. And when you do, you’ll be amazed at the results.

- Get Over a Broken Heart

A lot of times we try all sorts of crazy things to do to get the attention of someone we love. Most of the times, these end up backfiring. Because we are approaching them from a desperate position, they are destined to fail. To find out what TO DO, use this resource I found.

Here are a few things you should NOT do to get your ex’s attention:

call repeatedly
text all the time
send a message saying, “why won’t you talk to me?”
send them a note saying you agree with the breakup
call them and tell them you want to thank them for something

Listen, all of these attempts simply say this:

“I’m DESPERATE! PLEASE PAY ATTENTION TO ME!”

Tell me this, does that sound attractive to you?

Before you can even think about communicating with your ex again, you have to get YOU under control.

Then, you can re-create the awesome relationship you want. You can do it here.

Do it now. Take control of your relationships so that you never have to feel so rejected again.